As I write this I am so torn, so destroyed and damaged emotionally and mentally.
To be assaulted, abused and publicly shamed with false information by the person you love, who asked you six times to marry you, who when his own mother, ex-boyfriends, co-workers and other friends had acknowledged and spoke to him about his severe drinking and adderall addiction multiple times. They never did one thing to help himget into care.
I put him into treatment. I watched him go through DT"s having raging fits breaking, throwing and tearing things up. Damaging my floors and walls. Threatening to hit me if I "ever EVER refuse to kiss him".
Yet, now....they and a great deal of the Twin Cities LGBTQ Drag, Leather, & Recovery community applaud his "courage and strength". Some strength, he was smoking weed, drinking and doing adderall within 24 hours and started right up again trying to see me and pick up where we left off...more abuse.
Yet I am vilified. Not one person...not even BRANDON has ever thanked me for what I did and all the abuse I incurred, up to losing my home because of his behavior. Not ONE of those people checked to see how I was when the mental stress of this put me in the hospital.
I continue to cooperate with the investigators of Minneapolis Sex Crimes Division and The Hennepin County Attorney to seek his prosecution. I know he was severely drunk. I do believe he loved or loves me. I also believe he just faked it to make it in treatment and it was just a way for him to get out of his obligations and make a deal with his friends and family for an easier life.
I know for fact and he has confirmed it, he has not been honest or faced the problems that caused him to seek to self medicate. I am an easy out.
However, the courts are now involved. The judge and investigators all agree, he has clearly in text, in voicemails, and in his own testimony in court admitted to raping me. Now he will get Court Ordered Mental Health Evaluation, Chemical Dependency Evaluation, and Domestic/Sexual Abuse Classes.
This does not absolve him or LUSH for the sexual harassment he did when playing videos of himself masturbating to orgasm throughout the bar while it was open.
A verbal reprimand was NOT sufficient! He should have been terminated on the spot and a police report filed. SHAME ON LUSH and it's OWNERS!
Had this not been a popular LGBT establishment owned and operated with deep pockets and political contributions you can be sure every media source would be all over this.
There is no #metoo movement for anyone in The Twin Cities LGBTQ community when both The Saloon and LUSH continue to support this kind of sexual criminality and subject employees and customers knowingly to it.
Marcus- Iain St James FOURTH JUDICIAL DISTRICT Petitioner Court File No. 27-DA-FA-20-772
Brandon Andrew Gutzmer